Questions asked during this time:

Can I really and truly ever forgive?
Why do I still feel so sad?
How can I stop thinking about his affair?
How can I stop blaming myself?
Will the pain ever go away?
Is it normal to feel worse?
How can I get it out of my mind?
How can I recover when divorce results?
How can I regain my self-esteem?
What are the stages of recovery?

What people say in this phase:

It still hurts some days, but, not like a knife jabbing, life stopping, depressing, pain. It’s more like, this is sad, it hurts so bad to think about what happened to us, I feel like I need to cry for what we lost, I feel like sharing my feelings so I can get them out, more like an ache that makes me grateful that we still have love after all we have gone through.

What helped me through this phase:

Finding a hobby that made me happy while doing it. Helps to get your mind off your problems and makes you feel useful again
Prayer
Friends and support of others that are marriage friendly
Purposely trying to keep out the negative thoughts towards your straying partner.
Knowing that there will always be improvement as long as I keep moving forward even if it’s not as fast as I would like it to be