The “No Contact Letter” should be written in the Wayward Spouse’s own handwriting. It really should be sent certified. Remember, this isn’t a “goodbye forever love letter” but it’s really stating that the affair is over, it was wrong, you were selfish, you love your spouse and family very much and you want to make your marriage work and that you’ll be fighting and working on saving your marriage. You should also state how much you have hurt your spouse and how you are going to spend the rest of your life making it up to them.
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Is your spouse caught up in an affair and they won’t quit? Are they on the fence and bouncing between you and the other person? Would you like them to stop seeing the other person for good?

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Here are the  remainder of the six steps to surviving infidelity.

• Work on some of the most glaring problems in the marriage.  The ones that don’t have anything to do with the affair.  Try and really work through these problems and strive for a stronger marriage.  This was hard for me because I felt that I had to do all this work and try and change when I didn’t even do anything wrong.  But try and not feel this way.  Know that this is for the benefit of the marriage.  Work on meeting each other’s most important emotional needs.  Work with your counselor when discussing sensitive issues.  Remember you want to build a stronger marriage and make it as affair proof as possible.

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I believe that the answer is YES it really can BUT it takes a lot of hard work from both spouse’s. There will be healing that needs to be done together along with the healing of each individual. There are steps that can be taken to heal the hurt and pain an affair causes. It can also bring back the intimate connection into your marriage.
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The process may seem to be moving ever so slowly or maybe not at all but just know that as long as your moving in a forward direction from where you are today then your doing just fine. There is no time line as long as you are moving forward and not backward. Just make sure you give yourself plenty of time to process all your emotions before you forgive. If you forgive to quickly, you’ll find that it’s not real genuine forgiveness.
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Do you have a sinking feeling that your spouse might be cheating on you but you just aren’t sure? There are many signs of a cheating spouse and if you get to really know them and watch for them you’ll be able to catch them in the affair. Here #4 of the top 10 red flags of a cheater.

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Should you do a reverse cell phone lookup?  Do yo think your spouse is cheating on you?  That is the worst feeling in the world, thinking that your spouse could be seeing someone else.  In fact, it usually is so traumatic that most of us would rather just believe that our spouse would never do that to us and we believe in anything that proves this.  But, if you have a nagging deep in your gut that won’t leave you alone you really should look into it.

I remember looking at our cell phone bills and seeing the same number all the time on it.  But I knew this number and knew this woman and she was a friend of ours and I just believed whatever it was that my husband told me.  To this day I can’t remember what it was but I would believe anything because I just couldn’t ever fathom that my husband would sleep with someone else.  But, what if you looked at your cell phone bill and saw a number on there that was called a lot but didn’t know what it was?  You could call it but then you would be setting off alarm bells to the other person and they would tell your spouse and then you would lose the upper hand.  So, you need to find out who that number belongs too without anyone knowing that your looking into it.  So, the best bet would be to do a reverse cell phone lookup online.
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