I had been married for 12 years and was a homeschooling mom of two boys-aged 7 and 8-when I found out my husband had been having an affair for the past year.
To say I was shocked would be an understatement. I was beyond hurt. I really didn’t believe I could go on. The pain was excruciating.
My marriage crumbled at my feet. My heart shattered into a million pieces. The world fell out from under me. I had no idea how I would ever put my life back together again. At that moment, I felt I would never feel happiness again. That was July 21st, 2004.
I spent the next two years looking for a way to make the pain go away. I read every book I could get my hands on. I went to counselors and marriage coaches. Nothing seemed to work for me. I was still full of pain, anger and bitterness after two years of trying.
It was then that I decided that I had enough. I started attending church in 2006. As my spiritual soul was being fed, I looked for a devotional specifically for the betrayed spouse. Much to my amazement, I came up empty. There are devotionals for nearly any topic you can think of, but there were none for healing after infidelity. This was very surprising as infidelity touches over 60% of all marriages.
For the next two years, every now and then I would hear inside my heart, “Why don’t you write one?” I would say, “I can’t do that, I’m not a writer. Who would want to read anything I write?” That voice continued until I finally threw up my hands and said, “Okay, Okay, I’ll write one!”
I have a very deep desire to help those who are suffering in pain and agony because of their spouse’s affair. I want to reach out and hug people. I want to tell them that it can, and will, get better-to hold on. To take it one small step at a time.
My desire to help led me to not only write this devotional, but to become certified in coaching and grief recovery. Many people suffer in silence because infidelity is almost always kept quite and hush-hush. This is especially true in a church community. I want to give a sense of hope and a road map to healing to those who have been betrayed.
I want to help you. If you are suffering from your spouse’s infidelity, and searching for an end to the pain, contact me. I can help guide you to a new life where God’s love and peace reign. Whether you found out about the affair yesterday, or twenty years ago, you can find peace and happiness once again.
My Book
Godly Whispers: A 90-Day Devotional To Help You Recover From Your Spouses Affair
My Website
You, After The Affair
