If you are faced with surviving infidelity, then one thing I am sure you are struggling with is the subject of trust. As betrayed spouse’s, we now are extremely leery of anything our spouse’s say because we now know they are liars. We no longer trust what we hear them saying because all during their affair they did nothing but lie right to our faces. My husband had an affair that lasted for an entire year and for that whole year he lied right to my face. I remember how sincere he looked and how I believed what he was saying.

After I found out about his affair and I was struggling with surviving infidelity, I didn’t care how sincere he looked or sounded, I believed NOTHING that came out of his mouth because I knew he was VERY capable of lying right to my face. After someone breaks a promise a huge as being faithful, words become meaningless, and actions will mean absolutely everything! It really will come down to what your spouse does and not what they say. If you want to know if your spouse is truly sincere in wanting to save the marriage and is truly done with the other person then all you need to do is look at what they are doing and see if what they are doing matches with what they are saying. Your gut is going to tell you if what they are saying is NOT matching with what they are DOING.
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If you haven’t gone through a spouse’s affair then you have no idea the pain and devastation that is involved and how hard on someone surviving infidelity truly is. In the beginning stages of just finding out about the affair, you are literally balancing in between life and death. This isn’t just some bad day you’re having or something you just “get over”. I believe that surviving infidelity is worse than death and living through it is your worst nightmare. That is why I am here to give you a guide to help you through this devastating experience.

1. Be Kind To Yourself

Right now you need some pampering and comfort so let yourself. Buy new clothes, send some flowers to yourself, get your nails done, etc. You have to remind yourself that there is still good things in this world because right now everything probably looks dark and bleak. Even though you may not think so, your future still holds hope. Spend some time in the sun as this can lighten depression. Make a spa appointment so you can have something you can look forward to. Have a facial and maybe even get a new hairdo. Make yourself look and feel beautiful, even if you do not feel like it because you need to do this if you plan on surviving infidelity.
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