Tuesday, August 10th, 2010 at
6:00 am
Has your spouse been unfaithful and now you’re feeling devastated and betrayed? Is all this causing you massive pain and confusion? It is possible to be at peace and to feel encouraged as you go through this hard road of healing from affairs. It is not easy going through life after the discovery that your spouse has been cheating on you. Bible devotions for women can help you discover both the love that God has for you and His plans for your life and marriage.
Spending time in bible devotions for women that are specifically for betrayed spouse’s will help you face these hard days with renewed hope. Devotions can reveal God’s plans for you and you’ll experience a sense of His peace within your inner spirit. These bible devotions for women are a way of discovering God’s wisdom and comfort.
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Saturday, August 7th, 2010 at
6:00 am
Question:
“My husband had an affair with a woman he works with. He has decided to stay with me and the children but he sees her every day at work and has to call her and email her about work related things. How do I get him to see that this MUST stop if we are ever going to move forward? I am in so much pain, please help!”
I’m going to tell you that your marriage can’t even start to heal while your husband is in contact with the other woman. I will say that getting him to cut all ties with the other woman can be very difficult. You must do this at the right time and in the right way. First, you need to get as much perspective as possible and then give your husband an ultimatum in the form of a letter.
I know that my husband thought they could be “just friends” but I put my foot down and even insisted that we move. We moved over 1,000 miles away for over 2 years and this help tremendously. I had a list of musts that he had to do or else he could move out. If I didn’t set these boundaries, I believe we would be divorced today.
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Wednesday, August 4th, 2010 at
6:00 am
Question:
“My husband has gone into complete no contact with the other woman. But, he has stopped all counseling and he claims that we can work this out ourselves. He also says that he will stay in the marriage because it’s the right thing to do. Yet, nothing has really changed in our marriage except me knowing about the affair. It seems like he cut all ties with her and life goes on as normal. Is he really sincere about wanting our marriage?”
Situations like this make me so sad! It’s both good news and yet it’s also bad news. It’s great that he has cut all ties with the other woman but there is a LOT more to healing from affairs than just this. I believe there are three things that MUST be done to heal from affairs and they are: 1) Severing all contact with the affair partner. 2) Answering ALL questions that the betrayed spouse has. 3) Sticking it out through the whole long and very hard process of recovery with ongoing honest communication.
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Sunday, August 1st, 2010 at
6:00 am
I found this on my computer. I wrote it in 2006 and thought I would share it with all of you.
For 2 years I have been searching for the answer to this question: How do I get rid of my hurt? I didn’t want to hear the answers time or antidepressants. Today, I think I finally get it.
How to get rid of my pain, or really anyone’s pain is to have the offender really listen to my hurt and absorb it. Not get defensive but to really hear and feel my hurt. I needed him to bring up the affair, and let me know it was on his mind too, so that I knew I wasn’t alone in my pain. The more he pays attention to my pain, the less I am likely to pay attention to it.
I know my husband probably wanted to run away from my pain because it caused him pain too. He might have thought that really, what good can come of me “always” talking about my pain and grief except to hurt and punish me? But, I have come to realize that him listening to my pain and hurt and really hearing me, makes me feel closer to him and the pain less intense.
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