Someone found my blog by typing this into Google. The wayward spouse just doesn’t understand the gravity of what their actions have done to the betrayed spouse. 2 Years is nothing and of course his wife is still going to be angry over his affair. I still was in a lot of pain at 2 years.

Healing from affairs isn’t a fast process, it takes YEARS to become healed. But, at lot of our healing timeline has to do with the wayward spouse and how much they are willing to participate in our healing. Do you freely talk about the affair with your betrayed spouse or do you tell your betrayed spouse to “Get over it already”?

As they betrayed spouse, do you explode in anger all over the wayward spouse every time you hear something that you don’t like? If you do this, why would your wayward spouse want to discuss the affair with you knowing they are going to have their heads ripped off by your anger?

It was 4 1/2 years before I could say that I was healed from my husbands affair. I still have moments where anger and pain comes to the surface but they are very few and far between. It takes a lot of work to get to where I am and if either of you aren’t willing to do the hard work it takes then it will take even longer.

If you are having a hard time getting your spouse to talk about the affair here is a few tips. How to Get Your Spouse to Talk About the Affair

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